Can you help Lucy Leader grow in her life as a Christian Woman in leadership?

(Lucy Leader is the wife of Pastor Leader. She encounters many of the same challenges and obstacles that any woman in ministry leadership encounters. Perhaps you give some advice for our friend Lucy.)

Lucy also, has been struggling to find balance in her role as wife and mother, Christian Education director, and is also team leader with Pastor Leader. Their church has been growing, and she finds it difficult at times not to feel as though she is competing for her husband’s attention. What are some ways you could suggest to Lucy to deal with her feelings, as well as still support their team call to the church?

Suggestions for Lucy from Terry Wilson, Clinton, WA.

In answer to your question about Lucy Leader, anytime the feelings of “competing”, especially for personal attention, are present, a red flag should go up. Lucy should reexamine why she is a “leader” and who she is actually “serving”. First examine the reasons she feels this way to discover if it is a problem with her husband or a problem with her own needs that are not getting fulfilled. If she feels left out or ignored by her husband she should speak to him. Supporting the call to the church should not leave her with negative feelings. If her husband has no answers for her, she needs to rely on Christ. She should remember that His eyes are always on her. She must find a way to believe that the best is what God has given her. Speaking personally for a second, whenever I feel I’m not getting enough attention from my husband, and he is earnestly doing the best he can, I work on doing the best I can to fill my hours productively with my children or other interests, Church work or not, because everything I do I work as if it were for the Lord. Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, Col 3:23 If you are doing something for “Church” and, really in your heart, you are doing it for personal gain of any kind, it is all for nothing.

Lucy’s Next dilemma:

Lucy’s been leading a Women’s Bible study for awhile. Some mature Christians have moved into the area and have joined their church. What are some ways she can help the younger more insecure women move over and make room for these new ladies?